Grief to Grace helps victims of abuse heal in a retreat setting

"Despite years of counseling, pilgrimages, and volunteer work, I couldn't find peace from my sexual trauma. Post-retreat, I've noticed remarkable changes. My sleep has improved, my anxiety has lessened, and I've found my voice."  ~ Carlos R., Pennsylvania

In today’s world, suffering is a common sight, taking various forms. Unfortunately, much of this suffering stems from the trauma inflicted by people on each other, from childhood sexual abuse to marital abuse, leaving long-lasting scars that hinder peace, joy, and a full life.

To address this pervasive issue, Dr. Theresa Burke founded Grief to Grace, a nationally recognized therapeutic healing retreat, in 2005 in North Dakota. Recognizing its profound impact, Mickey Butler, a dedicated volunteer, brought the program to Eastern Oklahoma.

"Several years ago, I was inspired by Deacon Sullivan at St. Bernard of Clairvaux Catholic Church to expand this healing retreat to our region," says Mickey. "Our goal is to leverage the Catholic Church's resources for healing from trauma and abuse."

Trauma and abuse can lead to toxic stress, altering brain neuropathways and increasing susceptibility to learning difficulties, memory loss, and post-traumatic stress disorder. These conditions can severely impact one's ability to experience happiness and peace. Grief to Grace uniquely addresses these issues by transforming the narrative of abuse into one of healing and hope, as explained by Mickey.

Carlos R from Pennsylvania, who attended this year's retreat at Clear Creek Monastery in Hulbert, Oklahoma, shares his transformative experience: "Despite years of counseling, pilgrimages, and volunteer work, I couldn't find peace from my sexual trauma. Post-retreat, I've noticed remarkable changes. My sleep has improved, my anxiety has lessened, and I've found my voice."

Many participants, choosing to remain anonymous, echo similar sentiments of profound change. One attendee reflected, "I had seen numerous psychologists without any progress. Grief to Grace brought a unique healing light to my soul." Another added, "The retreat opened my eyes to the Holy Spirit's power, offering creative ways to process my trauma and move forward."

Valerie Valadez, Catholic Charities Director of Emergency Assistance and Healing Ministries, highlights the retreat's power in fostering a supportive environment: "Here, individuals with similar experiences can share openly, starting their journey to true healing."

Mickey further explains, "This five-day retreat helps individuals connect their suffering with Christ's Passion, leading to the joy of Resurrection. We incorporate Lectio Divina, The Sacraments, Somatic Exercises, and Role Play, in a setting that combines group therapy with individual counseling by licensed Catholic therapists and priests."

One attendee emphasized the retreat's unique integration of Christian faith: "Unlike other therapies, Grief to Grace centers on Christ and the Sacraments, offering immense healing, especially for those who've experienced clergy abuse."

Grief to Grace's innovative approach has given many participants a renewed sense of life. The next retreat is scheduled for April 2024 at Our Lady of Guadalupe Catholic Camp in Wellston, Oklahoma. Registration opens January 8, 2024, but inquiries are welcome anytime at cceok.org/healing-from-abuse.